One of the most frequently asked questions by newcomers attending 12-step meetings (AA, NA or GA) is “How do I find a sponsor?”
We’ve come up with some suggestions about this process.
Keep in mind that the primary purpose of a sponsor is to take you through the steps. You’re not looking for a new best friend, a mommy, a therapist or a banker.
Most importantly, don’t drag it out. Your first choice may not last forever, but you need to make a decision and begin your step work.
Once you’ve made your choice, ask them if they would be able to sponsor you. Hopefully, they say yes!! Agree to meet for coffee or at a meeting. Have some questions ready regarding how they sponsor, their sponsor history, etc. Some guidelines:
Don’t be afraid of choosing a new sponsor when you feel you need to move on. The whole point of growing in sobriety is to change and as we get better, we may have different needs. A good sponsor will understand this.