In the beginning, drinking was most likely a social event. Many people drank with their family or friends. Then at some point a “social” or “recreational” user crosses the line. They become addicted and before long they are drinking alone. At this point an alcoholic starts living a double life. Her or she might start lying about drinking or using drugs. They lie about where they have been or sometimes admit they were using but he or she minimizes the extent of the usage. The moderation in front of others can be a way to “prove” that they have things under control. But in the mind of an addict he or she realizes that they have a problem.
One former patient discussed how he would drive back home from his dealer’s house and try to figure out how to fix spending so much money. He would try to think out a solution to his money troubles. He would worry about what to do when the drugs were gone. Additionally, he never seriously considered stopping as a solution. Instead, he was a terribly lonely person with no idea how to handle life.
Only an Addict Understands the Loneliness of the Disease…
A recent article touches on isolation and how it impacts those suffering from an addiction. Only an addict understands the loneliness of this disease. A person might not even be using and is spending time with loved ones. But at the same time is unable to be mentally present during these activities. Often the addict is constantly thinking about drugs or trying to solve their financial woes because of their secret addiction. The solution to addiction is connection. A person should spend time with others in recovery and learn how to live life sober.
So, to get better an addict or alcoholic will need help. Just like some of our heroes rose to stardom, they didn’t do it alone. For instance, the professional actor had coaches, teachers, family, friends, etc. to help him or her become successful. We all need support along the way and stopping an addiction is no different. Support will lesson your burdens and end the feeling of always being alone.